Do you sometimes have trouble shaking off your self-doubt? If you do, don’t fear—you’re certainly not alone. No matter where you stand on the confidence band, it’s safe to say that we all have our off days.
But what is confidence truly all about? How can we learn to increase our self-esteem? Is confidence something we’re born with, or is it something we have to develop?
For some people, confidence seems to come naturally. For others, it’s something that needs to be worked at and developed.
We’ve all got that friend or colleague who emits confidence and radiance. Nothing ruffles his/her feathers. Criticism seems to just slide right off their backs. They’re undaunted to take risks, try out new things, and even if they fail, they never waver to try, try again.
But opposing to popular belief, confidence isn’t a situation or genetic organization. You can change the way you feel about yourself and your aptitude to succeed, only if you choose to do so.
Confidence can be learned. It can be refined, cultivated, and developed. And there’s really no limitation to how confident you can learn to become.
For instance, let’s try to relate this self-transformation with India’s freedom struggle as our freedom struggle itself has a lot of management learnings to offer. India’s struggle for freedom is a great illustration of willpower and persistence shown by the people. This makes us certain of and trail the learning, that no matter how big/small the challenges seem, one can conquer them if only one has determination and perseverance. It was the determination displayed by the people of the country who ultimately bore fruits of independence.
Disrupt! Create value! Break the situation! Deliver!
These are some of the latest anthems for people, who are seeking to refine themselves in this era of cut-throat competition. But long before these anthems, a group of Indian freedom fighters devoted their lives for India’s freedom struggle, and made sure that India becomes free from the Britishers!
While gaining freedom from a superpower and freeing yourself from low self-esteem and under confidence are two farthest things, however there are few elements which are common to both the situations.
Freedom struggle was a movement, which started at several locations, ignited by various social and religious factors.
Building confidence, very similarly, is a movement and the person is never working alone. He needs people who are there to appreciate (Positive Feedback) and criticize (Negative Feedback) him/her. Connecting the dots by taking the feedback into consideration is one of the most vital aspects: It was during freedom struggle and it is while making self-transformation.
If we ask archivists, about that single factor which made all the change in India’s freedom fight, then it will be pure determination.
Determination, perseverance and goal were the basis on which freedom fighters trusted, and acted upon. When you are in the process of transforming yourself, then the odds would be against. The default state of a transformation is failure, but success is not unfeasible.
Determination is valor: Whether it was India’s freedom struggle, or your freedom from low confidence
Everyone has their own fortes and talents. What are yours? Acknowledging what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will aid you to build confidence in your own capabilities.
Set some goals for yourself and lay out the steps, processes you need to take to attain them. They don’t have to be large goals; they can even be things like baking a cake, joining a yoga class or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small accomplishments that you can tick off a list to help you increase confidence in your ability to get things done.
Try to find something that you’re really zealous about. It could be photography, dancing, outdoor sport, knitting or even painting for that matter! When you’ve worked out your desire, promise yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re honestly involved or fervent about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more speedily.
More than just thinking positive, you have to place it into action. Action, actually, is the key that helps you to build self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but once you start working on it, you transform yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you transform what you do, you transform or change what or who you are. Perform in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put positive energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to observe a difference.
To build a strong sense of self-confidence, and self-esteem that progresses from it, desire to develop good habits. Working on your personal branding can have a constructive influence on your self-confidence. If you can project a constructive image of your true self, you'll surely start to receive the optimistic feedback that's so important to your self-confidence.
The reason that so many people fail to fulfil their potential is not a lack of intelligence, chance or resource, but a lack of trust in themselves. In other words, too little self-confidence. Without it, you can do very little; with it, you can achieve anything in this world!
Nobody is born with unlimited self-confidence. If someone appears to have unbelievable self-confidence, it’s because that person has worked on building it for years. Self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because the challenging world of business, and life in general, can depress it.
Freeing yourself from under confidence can lead to a high level of efficiency. It can help you get more things done since you are sure of what you can and cannot do. This means that you can use your forte to your benefit and at the same time, work on your areas of improvement. This sense of self-awareness is key towards career and personal success, as you achieve more goals and hurdles you have come across or set for yourself!
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